Hesitating in the Doorway of Opportunity

Have you ever found yourself hesitating to walk through the door of opportunity your guides presented as the answer to your request for help? Will it work out, will I be happy? These were the questions that Dan (not his real name) was asking. After weeks of deliberating he decided to get a second opinion.

Dan had spent the last 10+ years in his own business. At first it was thrilling to be his own boss, but the one thing he didn’t like was the inconsistency of his finances. It was like a roller coaster ride out of control. After a decade the stress of the financial up and downs left hem ready for well–a less exciting ride. Finally fed up he asked his guides to help him find a new job, one with consistent income.

It didn’t take long and the universe delivered. A door of opportunity opened and behind it was a great job with a good salary. All he had to do was say “Yes!” And there was the problem …

The job was back in the city; Dan had left his former job because he wanted out of the rat race. One of the things he enjoyed most about his decision to start his own business was not having to make the daily commute. Now he would be getting up each morning and join the 1000s of other commuters driving into the city. The other thing was working for someone else. Dan was going to miss living by his own rules and his own hours.

So there he stood, in the doorway of opportunity. The universe had delivered, but was it the right choice? Dan agonized over the decision, he didn’t want to take a job, go back into the world he had left and be unhappy again. Dan kept asking his guides to tell him what to do but didn’t feel he received a clear answer.

Tuning into his guides it quickly became clear why Dan didn’t receive a clear yes or no. First, it wasn’t their place to tell him what to do; it would violate his free will. Secondly, telling him what to do would not help him in the long run because the thing that prevented him from making the decision would not be resolved.

The cause of Dan’s indecision was a fear of speaking up to his superiors. It wasn’t that Dan didn’t speak up at all, rather he needed to do so more assertively and in situations that are more important. Dan had limited himself on how far he would go in speaking up, and it was this limitation that caused Dan to eventually leave his previous employer.

It was also behind much of his financial challenges when he worked on his own. Dan needed to speak up to vendors and customers when they were crossing the line. Again, he did speak up but only to a point, a point that did not always produce the positive results needed.

The rest of the session was spent working through and understanding how this fear came to be, along with how to handle specific situations. At the end Dan was able to make his choice: he was taking the job. Moreover he would speak up and negotiate for what he wanted when he felt that things were not working for him.

In closing, when a door opens offering what was wanted, and we hesitate to walk through it, there is usually a fear preventing us. By recognizing and working through the fear, we can grab hold of the blessing that awaits us.