Achieve the Highest Good in a Conflict

Does it seem that the universe/your guides/God has conspired to throw every unresolved issue in your path so that you are forced to clear it? Do you feel frustrated because most require that you confront someone? If so, you are not alone.

Even after all these years, the initial anxiety, though much less now, nevertheless is still there. When thinking about what to write about this week, it occurred to me that it might be a good idea to share one of the confrontation techniques that has served me well … and enabled me to reduce much of the anxiety.

The”Highest Good” technique.

  1. Say to your guides/God/ the universe, “Show me how to do this so the highest good be served for all concerned.”
  2. Let go and get on with your day.
  3. If you find yourself thinking about the situation and the anxiety returns, repeat steps 1 and 2.

I find that once I realize I need to confront someone I’m often unsure about how to approach it, and even if I know that, I may not know what to say. There are 3 critical elements in conflict resolution that determine success or failure.

  1. the right words
  2. the right feelings
  3. the right moment

Miss any one of them and the other person will become defensive, stop being able to hear you, and shut down. Yet, so much of it is out of our hands. By asking for help and letting go, we allow our guides to create the right moment. We allow our guides to help us come from our hearts so that when we speak, our words and the feeling behind them get our point across but in a way that the other person and hear and feel. It’s simply magical.

I discovered this technique when asking my guides for help in a particularly difficult situation … involving a whole group not just one person. I realized it was so multifaceted with numerous little issues all bound up in the larger one, that I was totally overwhelmed. I just wanted to run disappear in some little hole somewhere. When the moment arrived to talk with the group, the words came to me … to my heart and all the anger, frustration and fear melted away. In the end we were all in tears, hugging and apologizing all over the place … it was beautiful! That’s what convinced me that this technique works and I’ve used it with great success ever since.

Give it a try and see how it works for you. Once you have success, pass it on.